A lot of people follow rules when it comes to love. A lot of men take advantage of women, whore their way through life and think nothing of it because society has deemed that irresponsible behavior as acceptable. Women sleep with the husbands of others to boost their self esteem, and let other men manipulate and torture them just because society says it’s better to be with someone - anyone - than to be alone. 

I’m not about that. 

I don’t take excuses. Some things are just obvious (I would say common sense, but it seems like sense, period, isn’t so common anymore). I don’t want to hear about someone “learning” after destroying someone else’ lives. That’s not taking responsibility which is something that should occur before anything like that ever happens. I don’t want to hear about ulterior motives to be with someone. Love who you love. Don’t look for someone that’ll advance yourself - that’s your job. Don’t look for someone that can take care of you - that’s your job. When you rely on someone to be you, you lose yourself. And when they’re gone, you’re lost.

Love who you want to love, not who you need to love.

Don’t stay with someone just because time and appearance tells you to. If you’re getting hurt, leave. Ask yourself the real reasons as to why you’re staying with that person.

Insecurity.
Thinking you can change them.
The amount of time you’ve been with them.

If that person makes you feel insecure, they’re not worth your time. It is their duty to you to make sure you’re secure in a relationship with them. And if they are honestly doing all they can; actively shutting down other threats, giving you what you ask for, and doing it because they want to be with you, then you have to work on yourself. But look at it objectively: don’t provide excuses for them just so you can blame yourself. There’s no point in trying to take control like that. If they aren’t doing what they’re supposed to be doing then they never will, and it’s time to find someone who can.

You’ll never change anyone else. We women tend to think we can “train” men but we really can’t. They’re their own beings, and they’ll do as they please whether you like it or not. It’s time to find one who wasn’t born a mongrel, but a prize winning champion in honesty, sincerity, intimacy, courage, and love. 

Time is nothing. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together 7 days, 7 weeks, 7 months, or even 7 years. If they still aren’t treating you right, do you expect things to get better with time? You’ll wait for an eternity and miss out on someone who truly loves you and will be there for you at all costs. 

After getting my heartbroken over my ex fiance’s stupidity, I realized that he’s just being a boy. An ignorant, self centered, cunt of a boy. And right now what I want is a man. But I won’t chase them.

I’m the one that’s worth chasing. And when someone worthy enough catches me I’ll be both kind and cruel. He will prove to me every minute of every day that he loves me, sincerely, or he’ll be left behind; he didn’t do his job.

And until then I will keep shutting others down in the name of love. Love isn’t about getting laid, having a crush and pursuing it blindly, or anything of the sort. Love is something undefinable, and if you can define it then it isn’t love. 

Dysfunctional - not love.
Fling - not love.
Sex partner - not love.
Abusive - not love.

… and the list goes on.

I think of myself as a revolutionary of love - I can’t let this go on any longer. For every person I ever meet, they will be told of what love is and what it is not. You will be called out for your false declarations of love without mercy from me. Because last I checked, Silence gave birth to Catastrophe, and we’re in one right now.